Breaking up is hard to do. Yes, that was what Paul Anka said in his 1970’s hit. Who says breaking up is always easy?No matter who initiated or planned the break-up, both parties still face the same hurt or pain, maybe they will only differ in the degree of pain, but still breaking up is NEVER a piece of cake.
But, what is wrong after a break up? The immediate effect of the break-up is pain. The pain goes away slowly over a number of years, but the initial impact is high. It is the initial period during which one has to gather all the energy and tolerate the pain.So is it the moving on process? Yes, it is. I don’t know how men deal with break up, but i believe most of them are stoic in nature so I will speak on behalf of the women society.:)
I believe that every women is entitled to grieve after a break up. Give your self the agony of crying for like three days? Cry your heart out. Engage in catharsis. Create suicidal ideations. Mode yourself in an i-will-never-ever-stop-lov
What is wrong with us girls? If the guy told you that there is no point of getting back together, then I beg you girls, believe him! Guys would not be man enough for saying that to you. Guys are firm and definite in nature. Start moving on, stop stalking him. Stop fussing over his new girl. You were once that girl, he dumped someone just to have you. Yes, its a cycle on every guy’s pathetic life.
I won’t be a hypocrite claiming that I moved on right after the break up, it was like an everyday challenge of survival. I have to battle missing him because I know I shouldn’t think of him anymore. I undergo Ross’ DABDA process, but I never went on anger. Never did I blamed the guy, nor be mad to his new girl.I was passive. I embraced all the hurt I have to endure.
So that was me every after break up, but where I am now? Though I love attracting failed relationship, I know I am better. I have learned a lot.:)
Girls are pathetic. Let me correct that. Heartbroken girls are pathetic. Wait, let me just correct that one last time,
ReplyDeleteHEARTBROKEN people are pathetic. Not just girls. Guys are just as pathetic as girls when they are brokenhearted, if not more so.
You're heartbroken (or were, depending on how you are right now), you say stupid things and think they must be true. The only basis you have is that it applies to you.
Are men stoic in nature when it comes to break-ups? Not real men. Men who can switch girls without a second thought are the scum that gives our gender a bad name. Sure enough, men ACT like this in break-ups but only so that you can realize how serious we are and that there is no turning back from that decision. It doesn't mean we don't get hurt. It doesn't mean we have someone else. On the other hand, some men are just rotten bastards. My point is, STOP GENERALIZING.
Giving yourself a time limit for your stupidity after a break-up is even more pathetic. Sure, you can fool the ones around you, but in the end, when you are alone at night and the world is sleeping, you will realize that you are still as pathetic as you were three days ago. It takes as long as it takes.
And why do you refuse to blame the guy? Blame him. It's not like he cares anyway, right? Not blaming him is almost the same as blaming yourself. The thinking behind this is: If it was not his fault, it must have been yours. Crucify the God-damned bastard and burn him at the stake. He deserves it.
You haven't learned anything. I'm pretty sure that the next time you fall in love and get brokenhearted, you will still be as pathetic.
I, on the other hand, will be equally pathetic. Why? Because I will never ever let you know how much you mean to me. That's a promise. You will never know how much I love you. I won't even let you know who I am. Just look around. I am one of these guys around you whom you so easily dismissed as being jerks. Guess what? You're the jerk. I've been here all this time and you keep falling for these S-O-B's. Hope you're okay now though. Ingat ka.